Sunday, 1 June 2014

Emotional self control

Emotion is the chief "commodity" of selfishness. For the ego to survive apart from God, it must create scenes during which it can "trade" emotions. - Roy Masters

 Roy Masters: Foundation of Human understanding

Facing and overcoming anger:
To avoid all these unpleasant repercussions, you must learn how to be patient with selfish and thoughtless people. You must learn to remain poised and calm under pressure; otherwise, what is wrong in them will show up in you and make you look like the bad guy. 

Then, everyone is so surprised with your emotional overreaction that they fail to see what they did wrong to provoke that reaction—and that in turn becomes another unjust, upsetting, frustrating, and scary experience for you.

Emotional self-control is the key you are seeking. You very life depends on your responding in a right way to what is wrong with you, so that it cannot get inside and rip you apart.

Your main line of defense is to stay calm and patient. Seeing you unmoved, the motivator’s tactics backfire on him. He or she becomes upset, loses power, and panics. 
The game is over. So learn to put up an invisible, impenetrable force shield of calm patience around you. It will allow the good to come through, but will stop the ugly world from getting in and growing up inside you to control your destiny.

Instead of reacting with upset, what if you could learn to look injustice straight in the eye, without flinching—patiently, calmly and with endless endurance? Surely then you would not have the problems of repressing or expressing resentment. You would be in control. This then is the basis for a truly enlightened stress-reduction program: learning the secret of self-control through patience.”

                       Love is the ability to NOT REACT... it's to obey GOD.

Please watch this short video clip for a quick demonstration here:

Choosing peace – by Lawrence Wilson.


Another aspect of letting go that is often overlooked is a decision that must accompany letting go.  It is to consciously choose to be at peace within Since this is a bit complex, I want to explain it carefully.  First, let us examine this in more detail.  It means a deliberate choice to be at peace all of the time, not just when things are going well and life is fun. Also, it means choosing for peace even if it hurts – and it will hurt at times.
For example, it can mean giving up the sweet feeling of revenge against friends and others who appear to slight you or harm you.  It can mean walking away from a situation in which you could choose to fight back.  Of course, sometimes fighting is the correct response, but it must be done from a place of peace within.  This is the key, and it is not an easy thing to understand.  Jesus of Nazareth called this idea “the peace that passeth all understanding” In other words, it must come from within.  It is not about gritting your teeth and walking away, or putting on a happy smile while you fume underneath.  One can fight a fair fight without anger and resentment.  That is the idea
Now let us discuss more about what choosing for peace within does not mean.  It does not mean denying your anger, fear or upset.  It means observing your feelings, expressing them when appropriate, and then letting them go.
It also does not mean being a doormat or avoiding confrontation.  It means learning how to communicate effectively and acting boldly, at times, but not from anger.  Mr. Roy Masters loves to say it is possible to be strong without being wrong, meaning angry.
It does not mean protesting all defense spending - a legitimate function of the federal government. 
Nor does it mean to be a pacifist.  Sometimes an action of another demands a forceful response.  It means to be at peace inside yourself even if you are in a fight.  This attitude takes some time to cultivate, but is a wonderful way to live.
A phrase to practice is "I can be at peace with this" (no matter what 'this' is).  It is possible to be at peace even in the midst of chaos and war. There are many stories of people who achieve this feat.  Of the finest, two that are somewhat familiar are the stories of George Washington and Abraham Lincoln in American history.  These men were surrounded by chaos, horror, intrigue, and very bad living conditions.  Yet they remained calm, and as a result inspired the nation.
Always recall that this kind of peace within, or your lack thereof, always affects those around you.  When you choose peace within, others see that they too have this choice.  This is a wonderful gift to your children and others around you.  However, if you continue to be caught up in outer events and tied to your past traumas, anger and resentments, you will keep those around you somewhat caught up as well.  Keep this in mind, as it is a key to family peace and relationship success.  Be the model, in other words, rather than waiting for others to let go of their past and treat you as you wish to be treated.” 

Please read "The Way home or face The Fire

Galatians 5:22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith,
5:23 Meekness, temperance: against such there is no Law.

King of kings Bible

Thomas 16:1 Simon Peter said to them: Let Mary go out from among us, because women are not worthy of the Life.
16:2 Jesus said: See, I shall lead her, so that I will make her male, that she too may become a Living spirit, resembling you males. For every woman who makes herself male will enter the Kingdom of Heaven. AMEN

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